Saturday, October 30, 2010

truth of love

yes,i am still here for now..
hmm..what am i seriously doing now?? 
is studying or slacking?? whatever..but i read something online..is not bad but a bit long..
take your time to read it (if u have much free time)..

 May be these are the truth of love..

Avoid three forms of  romantic love 
'dead ends'
Use sex for emotional intimacy,not reassurance.
Use love to create and maintain happy,loving relationship.

Are You Confused About Being Angry with the One You Love?
    Do You Want to Take the Fear Out of Being Close?
Mary and John's story is familiar.
"I hate you -- get out of my life!" she said when he finally arrived.
 She was furious about his coming home two hours late to a 
cold dinner on the table. The candles had burned out, and 
she ate alone. This was not the first time he stood her up. 
You'd think she would learn! 
(You'd think he would learn!)


She loved him so much she was enraged, and told him she wanted
divorce and for him to leave and never come back! Obviously to John,
Mary no longer loved him, so he left, hurt and upset, and spent the night
elsewhere. Mary was even more hurt from his staying away all night.


Of course, she loved him very much. She understood that.
But how could she love him and hate him at the same 
time? She wondered, and he wondered, and with no clear
answer they drifted apart.

She didn't understand that love is more than a feeling of pleasure. Love is also an emotional
 investment. Mary's anger meant that John was very important to herOtherwise she
wouldn't care at all. Anger is an inevitable feeling in any relationship . . . 
but you have to know how to use the energy to turn upsets into opportunities.

The truth is, many people are confused about how to have a close relationship that works. . . .
. . .and no wonder. . .

There are thousands of families out there that model for their kids how not to be loving
with their husband or wife. They may want to know the "Secret of loving
 relationships ". . . but all they can do is the best they learned from their own parents
about how to get along with others. . . .




Love Means Treating Others Well



How to have harmonious relationships is not a mystery. The first meaning of love has to do
with how you treat the person you care about. Creating a close, loving relationship is not
actually so difficult to understand! How to do it can be learned. In fact, it has to be learned
by everyone who knows how to sanctify their relationship rather than pollute it.


-Anyone can do it, and there is no need to sit at the feet of a "guru," spend thousands
   on training workshops, or give up and settle for doing without the love you want.. .
It all comes down to the simple, basic rules of listening, understanding, and
   empathizing with what is important to your loved one. Once you understand how 
   treating others in loving ways works, your relationship cannot fail because of you.

Now, here's a book about the meaning of love that will show you the foundation on which to
build a deeply caring relationship . . .


The Meaning of Love is based on the proven principles and methods that are currently being
used by those couples who succeed in their relationships. The other 55% who fail in their
marriages use the methods that poison and destroy their relationships.



Love Means Pleasure
When couples treat each other well, they delight in each other, and love means 
           pleasure, deep emotional enjoyment of each other.

 -Sexual pleasure is only that, and does not create emotional intimacy. You
    don't have to settle for temporary enjoyment as all you can have. You can go
    beyond to find the emotional satisfaction that you've always wanted.


- Don't waste time thinking sex is the answer. Learn from what others know . . .
   that acceptance and affirmation of oneself and others creates the emotional delight
    that can be expressed with sex.

The experts who understand what works have one thing in common. . . they know that
couples who succeed have the same problems as couples who fail. . .
the difference is in how they deal with their problems when they are not enjoying each other.
Does your husband or wife (or significant other):
  • Criticize you about little things?
  • Seem less interested in you than before?
  • Put you off when it comes to physical contact?
   Here is a manual that tells you exactly what others do to get the positive results that you
   want in your own relationship.
   You don't have to figure it all out on your own from scratch.

    You have a description of what really works and what doesn't when it comes to close,
    emotionally satisfying, loving relationships.

Love Means Caring: Emotional Investment
Sharing life activities and personal information creates intimacy and
          emotional connection.

 Over time, caring grows and your emotional investment in the other deepens, even when
 all is not "rosy" and pleasurable. We love because we find our emotional match in the other
 person, that which makes us feel more whole. We have found a "soul mate" and gradually
 become more and more emotionally and spiritually connected to the other person.
Fear is what gets in the way of caring. But you don't have to suffer in silence. 
      Using the principles in this book, you can reverse what may seem irreversible,
            including:
  • Fear of asking for what you want.
  • Finding yourself reacting defensively when you don't want to do so.
  • Being critical of your partner or yourself.
  • Attempting to control your partner.
  • Fear of being rejected. 
      You Can Make Your Relationship More Loving -- 
                                   Today
The Meaning of Love explains how love based on need fulfillment usually
          has serious limitations, but identifies the one need we should continue to nurture. . .



p/s : thanks for spending your time to read. back to mugging... ^^ 

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

nag~~

after my TCM diagnostic final exam, we celebrated our 'half day' recess week by watching movie 'The Town' and eating Crystal Jade Xiao Loong Bao !!!
with lefties,i feel a feeling of ascription  and we had fun together no matter in class or wherever..
because of lefties, my uni life is not as miscerable by only studying studying and studying..

but now,i have to continue my mugging every week,everyday,every hour or even every second....
more and more CAs are waiting for me..
but after the tcm final,i have no mood to study at all...
physio,anatomy...i know they are interesting topics...however,is just that..
LAZY..

started traditional chinese Medicine module..the only one thing that i want to do is..
ENHANCE my MEMORY ABILITY !!!!!!!!!
i have lots of things to be memorized however my little brain just cant absorb too much..
Sometimes,i blame myself that why I am not a genius???!!!!!!!!

However, everything happen on its reason..
i know the reason of the problems,then of course i have to solve it...

ok..i have to STUDY!!!!

p/s: lazy to upload pics here..time is precious..

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

血虚天。。

在这时间,我该睡觉了。。这几天,随着月经来潮,终于能清楚了解何谓血虚了。。今天还去做了blood test ,真的是血虚到不行。。

这几天沉闷又无聊又情绪低落的心情,我都一直归功于我那失调的荷尔蒙,一直相信月经完了就会‘雨过天晴’了。。真的会这样吗??

连续几天都待在小房间里,面对书本资料,都快疯了。。
好想一把火烧了它们。。一直上fb stalk 别人,发现许多东西,但还是无聊。。

今晚,我唯一体会到的心情是失望。。对什么失望呢?是对期待的失望。。
真的是事情期望越高,换来的失望越大。。有时候真的就别期望,可能它就会出现呢。。

recess week 了,没上课,朋友都回家了。。剩下可怜的我,拼命地为中诊final奋斗。。
突然觉得很寂寞,孤独。。真的好想找个人陪陪。。
就真的觉得世界剩下我一人。。

失望了,依旧期待;
泪流了,于事无补;
心淡了,剩下冷漠;
心寒了,不再奢望。

我的小公主,快快振作起来。。

Sunday, October 17, 2010

dear god..

what happen to me these few days??
words that keep appear in my mind is just emo,emo and emo..

is it because of period??? my damn estrogen and progesterone are doing a very good job now????
is it because of exam?? my stress is like a silent killer,killing me slowly without my consciousness??
is it because of my stupid brain??? i just cant key-in all the notes into my tiny little pity brain????
is it because of homesick??? i just feel like going back msia and dun care whatever over here??
is it because of the feeling of loneliness??? staying in single room for the whole day is actually damn damn sienz..somemore i never play whatever games!!!!
is it because of slacking?? the feeling slack on fb-ing keep me feel guity but nothing i can do!!!! i tried shut down my com and finally end up sleep on bed!!! wth!!!!!!!

dear god,please please please let me get things done and get them prepared!!!!
i know that actually i have lots of time to complete my target,just do not let me waste any precious time,k??
time doesn't flow like a river,it flows VERY FAST...

dear god,please please please bless me....

Thursday, October 14, 2010

101010

today is 141010,but i wanna post a post about my 101010..

is a nice date to the whole world,and also us,since that day was our 1st anniversary..^^
i prepared his gift few weeks ago,is a hand-made small booklet and a glass piano..
i spent much time on the hand-made but is seriously i have to admit that i do not have any artistic cells in my body but i am creative..hehe..

finally,101010 reached and i received gift from him also..SK necklace..maybe you would say SK again???haha..but i like the necklace so much!!!! muackzzz!!!!
大心包小心~~

after we went to his colleague's wedding kenduri then we went to vivo city lo~~
A very very surprise thing is that he bought me a bunny which is from 'built a bear'..
i never go in before and we built our own bear there..
vava~~

we put cotton inside the bear,bathed him, chose costume to him and also did his birth cert!!!!
'vivalive' is born!!!! (he said that he prefers son wo..)
hehe

daddy bring u go gai gai~~

a big yoshi for him as he always think of..
almost as big as my baby pooh.. XD

we took a lot of pictures on the roof top of vivocity~~ we played with yoshi and vava..

vava's shoes

yoshi n vava hugging~~

vava riding yoshi!!


although our celebration is quite childish but is sweet..
i do really like the feeling to be together with you and i appreciate all the time with you..
there is 1 year already that we have been going through,many ups and downs shared,
many feelings tried and one thing that i found that is getting more and more in myself is

LOVE

towards you



happy 1st anniversary,dear


Monday, October 4, 2010

爱一直都存在。单车

i seldom listen to her songs..but i like this song and the lyrics..
because of my coursemate,he likes her very very much..
i feel that her songs quite not bad also..

^^



another song,i feel the lyrics quite meaningful also..made me homesick..
there is a time i din call back home..
so sorry...

Sunday, October 3, 2010

study . slack

i hate monday..i hate friday..i hate weekdays..
just that i have to go to school everyday for 830 classes until evening...
school is entering 6th week,more CAs are coming and of course my tcm final..
stressed stressed stressed...
no matter the stress is come from where,I just feel stressed..
i thought i can study more during weekends..
but in fact i did not do so..
i just slack slack slack...
fb-ing,drama-ing, sleeping and just doing nothing productive..
just do not feel like studying..how come a???
who can help me in motivating me to study and increase my memorizing skill?????

in uni,i started to suspect myself about the studying skill and the efficiency..
努力真的会换来结果吗?
但我知道,不努力就真的没结果。。

he always say that, studying is not only for exam,or can say that the exam result is actually does not mean everything..
for students studying tcm,should earn your knowledge to save people's life,but is not keep competing with each other..
i cant agree more on this,but the reality is still have not get used of this 'principle'..
give me more time,
i will apply principle in one day..